I notice my 80 year old grandparents are so calm about everything. Even when they are in pain from their arthritis they hardly ever complain. Are all older people this calm about pain and suffering?

Not always. Some people catastrophize pain all throughout their lives. This means they focus on their pain and the negative aspects of it. They imagine the worst is going to happen and dwell on those thoughts day and night.

Emotionally secure adults are better able to face suffering and upsets. In fact adults who are secure in their relationship with one another often report less pain intensity than those who have insecure attachments. This is true even when there are high levels of pain involved.